How the Facebook generation wants to be led

Interesting results from a Forbes roundtable discussing how young professionals want to be led at work. They boiled it down to five principles:

1. Empower us; don’t micromanage our talent

2. Sponsor us; serve as role models

3. Allow us to manage our own brand; don’t define us

4. Trust us; don’t question our intentions

5. Challenge us; don’t marginalize us

I think you could sum it up as just one thing: “Set us free” which is exactly the core concept of democratic business.

This is further evidence that workplaces based on democratic principles are the best placed to attract, retain and get the most out of the smart young people entering the workplace now.

The secret to out-aping a primate boss

Much of human behaviour, specifically at work, mimics the behaviour of our hairy ancestors and cousins.

The WSJ cites an author who observes two colleagues talking over coffee and how the more powerful one ‘stares down’ the subordinate when a contentious issue is raised in the conversation. Classic non-verbal alpha male behaviour of the kind we’ve all seen at work.

But what’s not mentioned in the article is that by being a human rather than an ape we can transcend this kind of primate behaviour using the very human skill of empathy. A less ‘dominant’ but smart and empathic human can say something like ‘Gosh you look like you tensed up when I said that. Are you OK? Did I offend you? How are you feeling about what I just said?’ Suddenly, the non-verbal ‘threat’ is made much more visible and the dominant is forced to interact at a higher, more human level. At that point the primate advantage is lost and you’re on a level playing field for a fair and constructive conversation.

If it were true that alpha male types are better suited to, and more succesful in leadership roles then wouldn’t we see the majority of positions of power filled by men like this? Hmmm oh dear, yes unfortunately we actually do. BUT this is changing fast.

I can’t recall any serious article in recent times advising on aggressive, domineering alpha male behaviour as a recipe for success at work. However I do see a big trend towards empathy, communication and, frankly, more female traits as the recipe for success.

Next time anyone tries to use alpha male tactics on you, don’t ignore it or try to fight it head-on, just use a little empathy to uncover their true feelings.